It’s been a couple of years and your little one is thriving and developing beautifully. She’s walking strong now, and she’s learning new words every day. The doctor says she’s amazingly healthy and growing wonderfully; but unfortunately… her hair is not. You’ve asked the doctor about it, and she’s said that it’s fine; but you can’t help but to notice other little ones your daughter’s age who have hair for days.

Your daughter’s hair seems perpetually dry and the growth seems stunted. You feel like you’ve tried everything, but to no avail. Your daughter’s hair just will… not… grow.

The truth is, your child’s hair is growing. The problem is that she’s not retaining any of that length. Here are two possible reasons why, and a few African American hair growth tips to help you fix it.

Reason #1: You don’t realize when or how she’s losing the most hair.

It could be when you’re detangling, or when you let her wear her hair free; but if you’re not seeing growth, there is a point when she’s losing a huge chunk of the hair she’s grown.

Hair sheds naturally. On average, you and your little one will shed between 100 and 150 hairs per day; but if you’re seeing a comb full of hair after detangling, you may have a bit of a problem.

Here’s what you can do about it:

If you’re seeing a ton of hair in your comb or in your hand after detangling your little one’s hair, you’re either detangling improperly, or you need to do a close inspection of the ends of your child’s hair. If your child’s ends are split, put down that “End Mender Hair Cream” that claims to heal split ends, and grab a pair of scissors.

It may seem counterproductive to trim when you’re attempting to get hair to grow, but if your child’s ends are split, they need to be removed. Don’t believe the hype when it comes to hair creams or oils that claim to repair ends. Once an end is split, it’s split, and it needs to be trimmed before it travels up the hair shaft.

If your child is at least one and you haven’t started doing any deep conditioning on her hair, that could be another huge route to your problem. Deep conditioning will become one of your most important parts of your child’s hair care regimen. Hair will not grow properly without moisture; and that moisture will only come from water and regular deep conditioning treatments.

Another tip – if you’re allowing your child to wear her hair out and “free” for extended periods of time – even allowing her to sleep with her hair unsecured, (on a cotton pillowcase no less. Eeek!) that could be the route of all of your problems.

Textured hair gets tangles and knots fast. Allowing your daughter to wear a twistout to bed, without retwisting it at night can be a recipe for disaster. Secure hair every night. If she wore a poof during the day, twist or braid the poof at night and secure with a satin scarf and/or have her lay on a pillow with a satin pillowcase.


Reason #2: You haven’t accepted that your current routine just isn’t working.

You feel like you’ve done it all. You keep her hair in protective styles, you moisturize regularly, she’s wearing a satin cap to bed, but you’re STILL not seeing any results. What gives?!

It may be time for you to accept that your routine just isn’t working. If you haven’t seen any noticeable growth in your little one’s hair for 2 to 3 months it’s time to take some serious stock in your daily routine. (The problem may even be that you don’t have a daily routine.)

Here’s what you can do about it:

Here are a few questions you need to ask yourself: Are you really handling your little one’s delicate strands properly? Are you finger detangling gently with hair damp and soft from conditioner; or are you ripping a comb through her dry hair strands daily? Are you putting your little one’s hair in protective styles regularly and keeping them in long enough for them to be effective; or are you allowing your child’s hair to be “free” just a little too often?

Really take a look at your daily routine. Even if your little one has her hair in a protective style, there still needs to be some moisturizing and sealing taking place on the regular.

If what you’re doing isn’t working (or if you just realized you’re not doing enough) make the decision today to change things up. You’ll be surprised at the results.

67 thoughts on “2 Huge Reasons Why Your African American’s Child’s Hair Isn’t Growing, and What You Can Do About It

  1. Lara says:

    So….since you're in Atlanta, and I'm around Atlanta, what say we have a a hair date? You can assess my Princess' hair and give tips and advice. I've foolowed advice from 2 ladies who have written natural hair books and have not had much luck. I admit its gotten btter but we've been having the tangle weft issue for 2 years and still not much progress. hair is not retaining much length.

    • wegotkidz says:

      A consultation?? Girl, you just gave me a business idea!! LOL. I don't know if I have time to factor in 1 on 1 visits and consultations, but I promise I've got way more to come on this blog. I've got a lot of things up my sleeve, so stick around and I may help you out even more. What hair type is your daughter? Are you doing the basics like using a satin pillowcase or sleep cap at night? Finger detangling only when hair is damp and "slick" with moisturizer? Have you tried just co-washing? We can get to the bottom of this! lol. Thanks for reading. 🙂

      • Melanie Burge says:

        Just shared this on pinterest and facebook. Such a great article and your daughter is gorgeous! Another reason you may not see growth is because of vitamin deficiencies. This is especially true in picky eaters. My two yr. olds hair grows faster than my 4 yr. old, because she has low iron. Also another HUGE reason you might not see your childs hair grow as quickly as you hoped is because of hormones. Ever notice how some kids seem to grow hair from day one and others will have really short hair up until 4-5 yrs old. This happens in bi-racial, caucasian and asian children too. It has something to do with their hormone balance and blood flow in the scalp.

        It takes some children a few years for their hormones to balance out and for the blood to flow better to their folicles. There is nothing you can do that will change this, but here are a few things that can help.
        1. Get your child’s blood tested to see if they are low in certain vitamins and minerals. Your doctor should be able to give you a remedy if this is the case.

        2. Give your child scalp stimulation for 5 minutes twice a day. Try doing this with a hair oil such as castor oil and add in a few drops of peppermint or lemongrass to really get the blood flowing.

        3. Use over the counter sulfur hair products. The sulfur will help stimulate hair growth.

        4. Make sure your child eat food high in sulfur and protein. I have recently introduced an abundant of nutrients through a green smoothie.

        5. Give them a daily dose of unprocessed fish oil.

        6. Protective style her hair 95% of the time. That means with the ends tucked in and not exposed. A High bun is great for this and very chic. Also don’t be afraid to add hair to her hair. I add Marley braiding hair to my daughters ponytail when it is down. It protects her real hair from all the rough play and looks natural.

        Hope this helps.

        Also I am in Atlanta and am a Long Hair Expert. My book Grow Longer Hair In 30 Days: The Definitive Guide To Growing The Longest Hair Of Your Life No Matter The Texture comes out Feb. 21st. I do workshops and work with women to do one-on-one-hair coaching.

        Melanie Burge

        • Jules says:

          My 1 year old son had a iron deficiency and his hair started falling out in clumps it was so bad that I couldn’t even comb it, I had to pat it with my fingers. After I started giving him vitamins I saw a dramatic improvement. Also, he has eczema so keeping his scalp oiled helped.

        • Danielle says:

          Hello my 7 year old hair won’t grow. Her edges always break off and I have been using good products in her hair. The one thing I think helps is suffer 8 my mother use that on me n still till today I have lots of hair.but the thing is she has g6pd ( allergy that. She’s is allergic to suffer n fava beans)

  2. Lara says:

    OK…so first, I heart you for responding so quickly. Second, when I was typing my message, I was praying you would say yes because I had a converstation with a co-worker just yesterday about finding a natural hairdresser for kids that's legit. Some claim they are and i've been to a couple only to have to tell them how not to treat natural hair. IMO, that's not an expert in natural hair if I have to tell you not to comb dry, and not to use small baby tooth combs. But, I digress.

    She seems to be a 4C. She does wear a satin cap to bed. I started finger detangling a couple of weeks ago with a conditioner. Previously, I would detangle after her hair was washed and I added conditioner. I am also going to try the just co-wash method but I'm not sure if her scalp will like that. Lately, I find that conditioner does not thoroughly wash out of her scalp. i'm looking forward to what's up your sleeve…LOL

    • wegotkidz says:

      No problem, as far as responding quickly. If I'm in front of my computer and see a question pop up in my inbox I try to respond as quickly as I can. I hate waiting for responses too. lol.

      Now, let me state this disclaimer: I am not, nor have I ever been a hairdresser. I just happen to be blessed to be able to stay home and run a blog that affords me the time to do a LOT of studying and research. My daughter and I are still collectively on our natural hair journey's. I'm just using this blog as an outlet to share what I've learned. When I started my journey, I became intrigued by the science of black hair and how and I why our hair does what it does.

      I will tell you one thing that I've learned along the way – Your journey with her hair is just that: your journey. You can get consults and advice all day, but the scary truth is that it's all going to boil down to trial and error. There are of course the universals: don't detangle hair dry, or use a tiny tooth comb. (Why wouldn't they know those things?? lol.) But given that your daughter's hair is so unique, there's only going to be one formula that will work at making and keeping your daughter's hair healthy and primed for growth; and that's going to be a formula that YOU create.

      As far as the conditioner not thoroughly rinsing, have you ever tried doing an ACV (apple cider vinegar) rinse on her hair? What that does is clarify the hair and scalp and give you a very clean slate to work with. It'll get off all buildup and "goo" that's accumulated on her hair and scalp and allow the conditioners you use to actually penetrate her hair shaft and do her hair some good.

      • Lara says:

        Thank you so much! I have not done the ACV rinse. I'll do some research on how and when to do it and strat with that. Thank you!!!

    • Brittany says:

      Question? My daughter is 1 and her hair is pretty coarse,thin and very short.I am able to put pony tails in it but I’m afraid it’s pulling it too much.What would be a good care steps daily?

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  4. T. Pope says:

    Great Job!!! You are doing a marvelous job! – you know the hair thing has been a passion of mine for years so its awesome to see you sharing your journey. I may not get on daily, but trust me you are definitely being followed. Continue to bless ppl with your knowledge! Love & Miss ya!

    • wegotkidz says:

      Thanks honey!!! I truly appreciate that. I just became super intrigued by our hair when I started my journey. I'm just blessed that I have the time and the outlet to share the things that I'm learning. Thanks for the support. 🙂 Love and miss you too!!!!

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  6. LaVitta says:

    My daughter is 3 and has the worst case of eczema. Her hair is so brittle and dry. It will not retain any length. I have gotten to the point where she wears a short hair cut style. I moisture and let her sleep in a satin bonnet. While it doesn’t bother her, Its frustrating for me to see her hair that way. I will keep your steps in mind with my every day routine.

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi LaVitta! Thank you so much for reading. So sorry you’re having issues with your daughter’s hair. Have you started incorporating any deep conditioning treatments into your daughter’s hair regimen? She’s old enough for that and I’m sure would benefit. Is her hair long enough to be put into protective styles? Keeping her hair cornrowed or braided will help her retain moisture and cut down on breakage.
      Hope that helps you out a little more. 🙂

  7. emon davenport says:

    Hi…my daughter seems to lose hair during wash and detangling.I know it’s normal to shed but this is the only time I see her losing hair. To me her hair should be longer but she also has a lot of shrinkage and only wears protective styles. I worry I don’t moisturize enough..should water just be sprayed on the hair or the hair and scalp? Sometimes water seems dry her scalp out. I use Cantu shampoo and conditioner plus the leave in conditioner. After leave in conditioner I use evoo and seal with shea butter. Her style I’d worn for a week and if it is still good I just refresh it for another week. I am trying to see where I am going wrong as far as her length retention. I do recall when she was younger spraying her hair daily and dabbling it with grease before combing it, but she is older now and now I don’t comb her hair daily but she really retained length then and if I remember correctly I would only spray her sectioned hair daily with water before twisting it..can I just spray with water and evoo now since it is in a protective style most of the time? And how often should I clip her ends?

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Emon! Thanks for reading!

      Are you finger detangling her hair only when it’s wet and slick from conditioner? And yes, you should be moisturizing while it’s in a protective style at least every other day. Think root to tip; so yes, that includes the scalp; but the ends of her hair are most important.

      Water will only dry hair out if it’s not sealed properly with an oil or butter. The sealant you’re using may not be thick enough which could be your problem. Try a butter like a solid shea butter, or even a butter AND a botanical gel.

      Clipping is discretionary. There’s no hard and fast rule about when to clip. If her ends look healthy with no splits then she should be fine; but if you find that when combing you’re hearing a snapping and popping at the ends, it’s time to trim.

      Hope I answered some of your questions! 🙂

  8. Alishia says:

    So I hate to say but my child is 9 years old and I have put a perm in her hair. I felt as if it was simply unmanageable due to how coarse and dry it was. It would not grow and I just didn’t know what else to do. Yes it was horrible, I feel horrible and now I hate that her hair seems to be lifeless. I didn’t have my mother growing up so I am not the best expert when it comes to hair. My question to you is where can I go from here. Of coarse I cannot do the big cop on her hair because she is way to young and she will kill me but I want to bring that thickness back. Is there still hope? My plan was to start putting it in braids(added hair) protective styles for the next 2 years being persistent in regaining and rebuilding its strength. Washing it every 2 weeks and moisturizing it daily. Please help!

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      I’ll be honest. I’m not really good with transitioning. 🙁 I tried to transition my own hair, and just couldn’t handle the extra care, protection, and maintenance it required so I did the big chop. Your plan sounds like it could work, but you’ve really got to be diligent about keeping it moisturized and protected if you want to transition her hair back. And no, you’re not terrible for putting a relaxer in your daughter’s hair. It’s really easy to get frustrated with natural hair because it does require specialized care that we really weren’t equipped with growing up. But once you gain that knowledge, I promise it’s not as hard as it seems. 🙂 Good luck!

  9. Rena says:

    My daughter just turned 3 and I am still trying to figure out a regimen that will help her hair grow. I am having a hard time figuring out ways to style her hair that will be a protective style because her hair is not long enough on one side to braid (due to breakage) and I have used rubber bands to style her hair just to get it to look decent everyday. Please help to me how I can start a journey of growth for her. She seems to have 4 hair type–it seems similar to your daughters pictures as far as curl pattern.

    I am using coconut oil/water to moisturize her hair daily and that seems to work well.

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Rena!
      Have your started doing deep conditioning treatments on your daughter’s hair? Type 4 curlies require a lot of extra moisturizing and conditioning. Here’s my article on deep conditioning:

      The rubberbands probably aren’t helping your situation at all. I’d invest in a few satin lined headbands and just let her hair do what it’s going to do until it’s long enough to style without rubberbands. I’d add a little aloe vera juice to your water. You can find that at your local Farmer’s market or Whole Foods. Mix equal parts water and aloe vera juice in your spray bottle and use that on her hair regularly. That will help with growth. Continue to seal with an oil, but you may want to bump up your oil to Jamaican Black castor oil. That’s a little thicker and can help with sealing in moisture for longer as well as promote growth. (A little goes a long way with that oil.)

      Also, be sure your daughter is getting in enough water each day. Healthy hair growth starts from the inside out.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

      • Rena says:

        You are amazing !! Thank you so much for the advice I will definitely add the aloe Vera juice I have some right in my cabinet 🙂 how often should the deep conditioning be done? I hadn’t incorporated that into our regime because I thought she was too young for those treatments but she just turned 3 so I will definitely add this into our routine. I give her 2 cups of water a day with plenty of fruits and veggies and yogurt–which she loves. They say kids should drink at least half of their weight in water daily :).

  10. Dansi says:

    My daughters hair is really dry no matter what I put in it! It seems to have stopped growing! What can I do! I’ve ordered a filtered shower head because since we’ve moved it’d become very dry!

  11. Arleshia Tucker says:

    Hi I just read your article and I have a problem with my daughters hair. I put a texturizer in her hair just around the edges and it dried her hair out also breaking it off to the point of no return. I’ve tried just about every kid product for natural hair that’s on the market even just using olive oil products and it remains dry and brittle….I’m and the end of my rope idk what else to do! I need help with this. My daughter looks at all the other little girls her age and she wants long ponytails or wear her hair curled and I feel guilty because she can’t wear those styles because of the breakage. I need a cure..PLEASE!!

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Arleshia,

      Yeah, that texturizer (as I’m sure you’ve already realized) wasn’t the best idea. Try aloe vera juice. You can get it from your local Farmer’s Market or Whole Foods. Mix it in a spray bottle half and half with water. Spritz her hair and edges with that daily and then seal with one of your oils. Oils alone aren’t going to do you any good as all you’ll be doing is sealing in dryness. Oils are sealers and should only be applied on hair that has been freshly washed or spritzed with water.

      Jamaican Black castor oil is a great oil to try. It has a lot of fatty acids in it which will promote growth and help her damaged hair. Again, use it AFTER you’ve applied water or a water-based leave in.

      If you don’t already, you need to make sure she wears a satin bonnet to bed NIGHTLY, and that you have a deep conditioning treatment in place for her weekly, or at least bi-weekly.

      Good luck!

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Brenda,
      This whole natural hair journey is about trial and error. I can give you a suggestion of a product that has gotten rave reviews, but since your daughter’s natural is so unique, it may not work for her. My rule of thumb is to try a product for 6 weeks, and if you don’t see noticeable growth and if her hair doesn’t retain moisture for more than a day, then it’s time to move on. With that being said, Shea Moisture is a line that a lot of curlies live by. Try that.

    • Nesha says:

      I’m not sure if this will help but my daughter is 2 and I’ve been using a product called Curly Kids. It says mixed hair haircare by my daughter isn’t mixed and it works wonders on her hair. They even have a deep conditioner that I’ve just tried and it works really well as well. I’ve been using this product for over a year and her curly hair is thick and healthy.

  12. Schina says:

    Hi, I have a one year old when she was born she had good hair up until she was 3 months. After that her hair became very brittle and falling out at first I believed it was just a stage but it grew a little then stopped growing. At this point I’m desperate I can’t braid it I can only braid the top patch of her hair and even that is starting fall out.

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:


      Your daughter’s hair is STILL good! It’s just changed and you’ve got to find the best ways to take care of it. 🙂
      So, what’s your regimen like now? Is she sleeping on a satin blanket or wearing a satin bonnet EVERY night? Do you deep condition her hair each time you wash it? Are you only combing and detangling her hair with a wide-tooth comb when it’s damp and slick with a good conditioner? Does she get in enough water and green veggies each day?
      If you answered “no” to any of those questions, those would be great places to start at trying to figure out why she’s not retaining length.

      Take a look at your regimen for her. The reality is that there are some things that are going to need to change in order for you to see growth with her hair.

      Good luck! 🙂

  13. Tilan says:

    Hello…so my daughter is 11 months old and still has the bald spot in the back of her head what can I do to get it to grow back she’s allergic to anything with Shea so it’s kind of hard to find natural products for her also her hair is very kinky and dry in the back and curly in soft in the front is there a way I can make her hair uniform or is it just a ransitioning stage all babies go through…thanks I love your blog I’ve been following it since I found out I was having a girl lol

  14. Martina says:

    I absolutely love your website!
    I have a 4 yr old, with dry kinky/curly hair. I’ve done some research lately to help soothe her dryness and breakage and have began a regimen. I would like to know what kinds of hairstyles you would recommend for her hair which is between neck and shoulder length? Also when you speak if using oil to seal in moisture, do you spray on to hair, hand-rub, or what. I’m lost at how to improve moisture loss during the day. Also when a good trim is needed do you complete that when hair is wet, dry and or straighten (with blow dryer)?

    Last but not least, how do you feel about the Taliah Waajid line for kids?

    Sorry for so many question
    Thanks in advance for you help!

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Martina,

      Thanks for the love on the site!
      As far as styles, I can’t cornrow worth a darn, so I’m the last person to ask about styles. lol. My go-to style is 2-strand box twists. I believe it’s less about the actual style though and more about how you treat the hair and the regimen you have in place in the interim. YouTube is your friend! You can find all kinds of tutorials regarding natural styles for kids.

      Oil should be applied after you’ve used water or a water-based leave-in conditioner on the hair. Put a quarter size amount in your hands, rub them together and apply starting with the ends of her hair. Part her hair into sections and do it section by section for it to be the most effective.

      Regular deep conditioning and utilizing the L.O.C. method (apply a leave-in conditioner, then an oil, then a hair creme) can help you out tremendously with your moisture retention issues.

      As far as trimming, the easiest way to get a good trim at home is to do it after the hair has been blown out/straightened. You can really see what parts need to be trimmed once the hair is straight.

      Haven’t used the Taliah Waajid line, so I can’t give you an honest opinion; but here is my universal tip for product usage: Use it for six weeks, and if it doesn’t help your little one’s hair to retain moisture, then move on. Also, if the first five ingredients of a products include mineral oil, petrolatum, or petroleum, I’d say skip it.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  15. Jezell says:

    I love your website! You have so much useful information.

    I have a 4 month old boy and he has a little more hair then your daughter at six months (going according to the picture of your daughters hair journey.) Is it to early to treat his hair? With so many products in the world, its overwhelming to find a good products when most products “says” that they do the same thing.

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Jezell,

      Ultimately, you’ll have to make the decision as to what to add to your son’s regimen; but I probably wouldn’t worry too much with a bunch of elaborate products at this point. To moisturize, spritz his hair with water from a spray bottle and then seal in that moisture with an organic oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. Shampoo weekly with a sulfate free shampoo. Shea Moisture carries a great one for babies. That should pretty much be the extent of your regimen for him. You’ll have plenty of time for treatments, products, and an in depth regimen. You’ll be wishing for these easy days soon enough. lol.

      Good luck! 🙂

  16. Taquisha says:

    OMG I am thanking my dear God for blessing me with this article!! I have a 21 month old & her just will not grow! Her hair is very dry & brittle & Ive come to realize that I need to do better with her hair care. I use Shea moisture for kids as her shampoo & conditionier. Should I use that for her deep conditions or another product? How often should I deep condition? What is a good moisturizer to use for dry, thin, brittle hair? I know recommended water but what is great to seal it? Sorry for bombarding you with questions, I’m very hair illiterate!!! I dont even take care of my own hair properly but I want to make sure I atleast take care of hers! Thank you very much!

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Taquisha,

      So glad you found me! :O)
      You can use the Shea moisture for deep conditioning. Sure! Or you can make your own. Here are a few recipes:
      Deep condition once a week or at least every other week – especially if she’s experiencing chronic dryness and breakage. Do it after cleansing her hair. If you elect to do the once a week, be sure to stick with your Shea Moisture shampoo, or use a cleansing conditioner.

      Yes, water is the perfect moisturizer. Seal with a carrier oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. For added moisture retention, finish off with a hair butter like Shea Butter.

      If you’d like to get regular tips, be sure to subscribe to my newsletter: and follow me on Instagram:!

      Good luck! :O)

  17. Shinee says:


    Thanks for all the helpful tips! My daughter hair is growing in all areas besides her hairline. To better describe it- it looks like she has a receding hairline but she is only 4 years old. My husband is bald, but I can tell that he would have a receding hair line if he allowed his hair to grow. Can I fix this on my daughter? She does have some fine thin hair there, but not enough so it doesn’t look full, moreso it looks more bald.

  18. Ebony Carpenter says:

    Hello im in desperate need yo know what I can I do for my daughter hair to grow her texture is a 4c and its dry let alone I use to 3 strand twist it and she cut 2 twist in the front and on the sides I just don’t know what to do I need your help on guiding me to get my daughter hair to grow longer and healthier.

  19. Saskia says:

    Dear Kesha,
    Handy tips Kesha.
    But don’t forget to mention that eating habbits, lack of surtain minerals and vitamins, can also be a cause of hair that seem not to grow.
    For example: Lack of iron, vitamin B, proteïne, surtain medication.
    It’s not always the outside, that should have a treatment, but also the inside.

  20. Samantha says:

    We adopted two mixed girl had them for over a year now . Brook is 2yr old and was almost bold but now her hair is growing its to short to do a lot of hair style with. Is there anything I can do to help it grow ? The I’m new to all of this but I want to learn how to do there hair and take care of it.

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Samantha,

      Congratulations on the new editions to your family!
      Textured hair needs tons of moisture, so implementing bi-weekly deep conditioning into your regimen for the girls would be a great place to start. Here’s an article on how and when to deep condition: You’re going to need to start practicing protective styling (braids, twists, cornrows) as well. As their hair gets longer, you’ll need to protect it from damage and help it to retain moisture with regular protective styling. YouTube is your friend! Google “kids natural hair styles”

      Keep reading and researching. You’re in an age where there is TONS of information out there at your disposal. Subscribe to my newsletter and follow me on Instagram for regular tips on natural hair care for your girls. 🙂

  21. Attnim says:

    Help the beautician who is doing my granddaugther is always cutting her ends, when she went to live with her Dad her hair was a little past her shoulder and that was in a natural state, but now her hair is not even on her neck and her face is all broke out,

  22. james says:

    Help the beautician who is doing my granddaugther is always cutting her ends, when she went to live with her Dad her hair was a little past her shoulder and that was in a natural state, but now her hair is not even on her neck and her face is all broke out,

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      You’ll have to head to a dermatologist about her breakout. Is she getting in the recommended amount of water for her age group? I know that can help out a lot with skin issues.

      As far as her ends being trimmed regularly, if her ends are damaged, that’s really the only way to rectify the situation. There is really no way to “fix” ends that are damaged and split; so if that’s the reason the beautician is cutting then she’s doing the right thing. Short healthy hair is way better than long damaged hair. Your mission would then be to get to the route of why her ends continue to become damaged. Does she wear frequent protective styles (braids, twists, cornrows)? Do you oil her ends regularly with a natural oil like coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil? If you answered “no” to either of those questions those would be some great places to start.

      Now, if the beautician is cutting just to be cutting and your granddaughter’s ends are fine, then I’d request that she stop doing it and only trim as needed.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  23. Kay says:

    My 2 yr.old daughter’s hair is thin on the sides and bald in the back. I wash/condition every 2 wks. followed by greasing her scalp w/sulfa for kids and it still isn’t growing. The hair on the top of her head is short, but I’m able to flat twist it for protective styles. She’s been checked for deficiencies and was fine. She also sleeps w/both a satin head wrap and sheets/pillowcases. What else can I do to promote hair growth?

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Kay,
      Your biggest issue sounds like the greasing of the scalp. I know that was something that we grew up having done to our hair, but in all actuality, it’s not the best thing. Heavy hair greases contain cheap oils like mineral oil and petrolatum. Those oils can clog the hair follicles and seal the hair strand keeping good moisture out. Greases also don’t come out easily when the hair is washed. Your little one may need a clarifying treatment to remove buildup. You can clarify easily using an equal part mixture of apple cider vinegar and water. Put it in a spray bottle and spritz the hair in sections. Put on a plastic cap and process for 15 minutes. Rinse out and continue with your wash and conditioning. Clarifying will remove impurities from the hair and give you a clean slate that will allow the products you use to actually penetrate and work.

      Also, do you pull her hair in tight ponytails frequently? Do you do tight cornrows that pull her edges often? Those may be some reasons why you’re seeing thinning/breakage.

      Hope that information helps! 🙂

  24. Christen says:

    OMG, hey Kesha! I remember you. We worked for the same company in the past. Great to see you doing great things and have 2 beautiful children. I landed on your blog after trying to do some research for my 2 year old son’s hair. Do you have any advice for hair care for hairline growth for boys.

  25. Erica says:

    Hello, my daughter is 4 years old with type “C” hair.. It is so dry and does not grow. Can u tell exactly what products o should try for 6 weeks. I’m desperate!

  26. Eboni says:

    So my two year old has had peach fuzz since the day she was born. She’s almost three now and still only has a tiny wennie curly do. It’s hard for me to guess her hair type because she has at least three lol. The sides are big curls the top is a mixture of curls and straight and the back has a kinky curl pattern. Ive tried all of the juices and berries I use on my hair and no luck. I’ve been told that I should just be patient, but my husband is starting to bug me.

  27. Karen Lewis says:

    You just don’t know HOW INSIGHTFUL this was for me! My daughter is five and at four, her hair was thick and long… my work hours changed, so I started letting her go to bed without tying her hair up because as long as she’s been alive, her hair was ALWAYS thick and long! Well, it is now thinner and is just to her shoulders… I feel awful! I cut her ends, and keep her hair int wo strand twists. I just want to be sure I am using the right products… Shampoo is Sof’n Free (and detangler) I use Jamaican Black Castor Oil, then twist… Any Suggestions? She has that wonderful kinky stuff.

  28. Amaka janelle joel says:

    Please I need your help,I have four girls and the little one is just three months old and she gotcurls on her hairbut other 3 have know curls please what must I do to get there curls back and I really need help to know were to start from.
    Thank a lot from Gabon

  29. Kyara L Bryant says:

    Hello, I have a 2 year old who has fine hair naturally. It would grow then it breaks. So I found your website and started using sulfur 8 and olive oil moisturizer in her hair and combed it twice a day and it started growing beautifully. I bought her a satin cap to sleep with and everything appeared to be going well. Then I went to comb her hair the other day and it was like her hair was gone! I need help. I don’t know what else to do. Also I use the coconut oil shampoo and conditioner. Please help me thanks!

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Kyara,
      Did you read somewhere that Sulfur 8 and twice a day combing was good for hair? Because I would never endorse that. Stop the Sulfur 8 and do a clarifying treatment on her hair ASAP. Google “apple cider vinegar natural hair” and you’ll find tons of in depth articles. After you do that, shampoo her hair with a sulfate free shampoo and follow up with a deep conditioner. After you’ve done that, apply a leave-in and finish with extra virgin olive oil. Then place her hair in a protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) and leave her hair alone for the week. Twice a day combing can really do a number on hair over time and Sulfur 8 contains a lot of cheap oils that can seal the hair strand to the point where no moisture can get in.

      If you’d like more detailed info on anything I’ve mentioned, head to my Facebook page and check the times and dates of my next Natural hair live Q&A:

  30. Elle says:

    So happy I came across this site. My 16 month old daughter’s hair is thin around her perimeter. Ever since her hair was long enough for me to comb it or put it in a ponytail, I’ve noticed the hair around her perimeter is thinner. I’m not sure how to style her hair. When I leave it out, it gets tangled. When I braid it, it still gets tangled (the hair in the back is fine so the braids don’t always stay put. Any idea on what I can do?

    • Kesha of We Got Kidz says:

      Hi Elle,

      She’s old enough to begin a deep conditioning regimen if you haven’t started one already. Do it once a week or at least every other week. That will help with manageability. Process your conditioner with heat from a bonnet hair dryer or use a warm towel wrapped around her processing cap.

  31. Kathy says:

    I have a 4 year boy, I’ve kept his hair in protective styles since birth so with that said at four his hair is thick wavy and pass his shoulders to the middle of his back. I have a care routine ( if you can’t eat it I don’t put it in his hair. ) Wash: ACV with the Mother & baking Soda) Conditioner: coconut milk, cold pressed coconut & olive oil, honey, purée cucumber. Daily moisturizer: distilled water, avacodo oil, aloe Vera. I need help on how to detangle, it is so long and think. Usually I wash, condition and then detangle. Should I condition and detangle first? Also what is co-wash? Thanks your blog is great

  32. Jasmine Owens says:

    My daughter is 2 1/2 years old. She came out with a head full of hair ,but as soon as she turned 1years old her hair fell out really bad. I’ve done everything i can think of and she still has a bald spot that wont grow in can i get some advice please!! I ‘m desperate!!!!

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